Relationships can be difficult when people don’t flow in the Holy Spirit which is common for those that don’t even know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Even after we ask Jesus into our hearts to be saved, or born again according to John 3:3, our spirit was reborn but we did not get a new body nor a new mind. Romans 12 says we are to renew our mind to the Word of God which is a process. A baby Christian does not become an adult Christian over night so we have to be patient with people but not let them run us over.
Ephesians 6:12 says we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, powers, rulers of darkness and spiritual wickedness in high places. This basically means people are not really our problem. The devil is our problem. So we need to take authority over all the works of the devil and cast the devil off all our relationships in the mighty and POWERFUL name of Jesus according to James 4:6-8 and 1 John 3:8 and the devil will flee.
Jesus Christ sent Holy Spirit to help you each hour of every day. Grace is not a one time event in your life when you got saved. The Holy Bible says to grow in God’s grace. So daily ask for more of God’s Grace and love and faith. The definition of grace is not just unmerited favor as that is part of it. As you study the scriptures you will learn that GRACE is GOD’S DESIRES, GOD’S POWER and GOD’s ABILILITIES to work in you what you cannot do on your own. You could not got saved on your own. God’s Grace, by faith, saved you. So stop operating on just your own strength and allow Holy Spirit to work great miracles in all your relationships. Yes you should be water baptized as an adult but also ask Jesus for the baptism of Holy Spirit and fire as explained in the Holy Bible. God’s Holy Spirit and fire can burn out your bad habits and give you a new desire to want to be Holy before the Lord in dress, conduct and in speech. As mentioned in the first paragraph, God loves you at the baby Christian stage, at the teenage Christian stage and at the adult Christian stage so never get in the devil’s condemnation as a baby does not become an adult overnight. Just pray, Holy Spirit, I need you to partner with me in these weak areas in my life. Pray this:
Dear Lord, you and I will CONQUOR all my problems together , as I learn to flow in the grace of God, in the God kind of love and in the God kind of faith. Please keep me from ever becoming lukewarm. Please stop me from becoming a hypocrite. Help me to continually grow in love, faith, grace all the rest of my life as I surrender all my problems and every area of my life to you Lord! In Jesus’ name I pray!
Jesus said on the Cross: “Father forgive them for they know not what they do”. Childhood or other traumas that were never healed can bring damage into relationships. Many people say they have forgiven that person that hurt them but if they keep on bringing up the same hurts over and over then it is clear they have NOT totally forgiven AND FORGOTTEN that hurt. Past hurts not forgotten can be triggered by something a person says or does in a new relationship. These hurt people want to bring up past hurts because of self pity as they feel no one understands them. No one can really understand all the hurts you and I have gone through except God alone. So self pity is a sin. Always remember: HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE. This means HURT people will continue to HURT PEOPLE until they have totally forgiven and forgotten the hurt incident in Jesus’ name. Help hurting people to learn about God’s Grace explained at the top of this webpage. Help hurting people (that cannot forgive AND FORGET their traumas) to say out loud:
” Dear Heavenly Father, It is time for me to start operating in God’s grace. I choose to forgive and forget that person that hurt me. I choose to forgive and forget all who have hurt me, with your strength since I cannot do it on my own. ” In Jesus’ powerful name I pray!
Our old nature is selfishness. 1 Corinthians 13 says love is kind, patient, and has no selfishness it in. This is the God kind of love. If we don’t operate in the God kind of love we will judge people to tell them all their faults with harshness and sometimes not even see that we do some of the same things. These are called blind spots and everyone needs a close friend to help us reveal our blind spots.
Selfishness always wants our way. We need to say to the Lord, not my will but thy will be done. As we pray for family members our love example will win them to the Lord Jesus Christ.
For people that are in abusive relationships where health is declining, tell them to separate locations for a time being until each party can get healed up to rejoin again together according to the will of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Keep praying every day for your spouse (or future spouse), family members, neighbors, friends and people you work with so all operate in the God kind of love. Bind the devil daily off you and your surroundings and loose the angels daily to bless all.
Remember to provide for your family as that is your first priority. Say “I LOVE YOU” to your spouse and children often. Honor your Father and Mother which is one of the 10 commandments. For children give them 10 praises for what they did right for every 1 sentence of correction. There is a book called “Raising Burning Hearts: Learn the Godly way to raise children so that they hear from God on their own and have an on-fire relationship with Jesus” (by Patricia Bootsma). This book can be found on https://www.amazon.com or Amazon in your country or other local book sellers to help you with your children.
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God bless you!